“I’m not upset about anything.” “I’m not just feeling sexual these days. ” Samantha from the television show Sex and the City is the character who loves to have sex.  She is one of most amazing characters in my opinion through watching American dramas because I’ve never seen any women characters who enjoys living their lives so much.  Especially, I thought enjoying sex was taboo for women so Samantha was out of blue for me. 

The drama was made almost 10 years ago, and some of the stories or topics might be already old subjects.  But I have to wonder if the problem that Samantha has is already old-fashion or not.  In the second season, Samantha has a relationship with a guy, James who has a small penis.  She has so much hard time to tell him that he doesn’t get her to orgasm.  In general, I believe that women have really hard time to communicate with our boyfriend/husband about the sex issue.  When women want to bring up the issues like not being to orgasm during sex, the topic becomes really sensitive for us.  Because I believe women are afraid of hurting our guy’s emotions and pride.  Also, I think that we are also worried about making the relationship in trouble.  Instead of making troubles, women might decide to pretend and act we feel orgasm so that we can let the problems go away or bury. 

However, I think that sex is a pleasure for both partners.  I consider there is no reason that women have to fake our orgasm.   I believe that it is a 50/50 job for men and women to make each other feel pleasure during sex.  For instance, in general there are women who feel pain after guys penerate.   One of the main reasons for this is not enough enough foreplay.  Women need to get wet before anything can happen, that is the truth.  However, I wonder if getting wet is 100% of women’s responsibility.

Sex is teamwork, right? 

I can completely imagine a woman being okay with giving a blowjob to a guy before sex, but I can hardly imagine guys “returning the favor” to women. This is so one-sided!

I believe that women also have the right to feel orgasm during sex.  I think sex is important because sex is one of the chances that women can express ourselves physically.  We might shout, cry, and laugh. During the sex, there are so much emotions coming out from women’s inner side.  In addition, I consider that feeling orgasm is important because a lot of women hold our tensions so much and it is so healthy for us to let them go.   I don’t think that having sex is not enough to release the tensions. Women actually need to feel orgasm to let them go.  Otherwise, we might build more frustration. 

When I have so much frustration and there are so much stuff going on, I’m getting frustrated completely.  However, once I release my tension, my mind becomes more clear and it is much easier for me to see the full situation.  Also, I think releasing the tension makes me think what I really want in my  life.  In other words, I can be more honest with myself.  Masturbation helps in releasing tension, but I think definitely there are differences between feeling the orgasm alone and being with partner.  

Of course, we need to feel attraction to each other.  When there is attraction, I think we should never miss the chance to grab it (with careful responsibility. of course). 

But let me not get of the main topic: if men have the right to feel orgasm during sex, then we also have the rights to feel orgasm during sex.